Living with a Dummy Addict(s)

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There is a turf war going on in my house. Like most turf wars, it gets violent and aggressive, and is perpetrated by addicts. I am caught in the middle of a dummy turf war, headed by my tiny humans, who would also rather die than remove the plastic, quiet inducing, sometime lifesavers, from their mouths. You see, Deep thinker is firmly in the Avent gang. He prefers his stash to be of the colourless, see through variety, with an annoying handle flapping with excessive movement. Mini Assassin is firmly affiliated with gang MAM, thus preferring a vice consisting of the larger, boldly coloured, face obscuring variety. Each are fearlessly protective of their own haul, and there is severe punishment for any dummy found crossing into the wrong territory. Avent territory includes Deep Thinkers bedroom, our bedroom, and the lounge. MAM territory consists of everywhere else. Punishment for a dummy found to be stepping on the others turf, currently include a screaming fit, before it being placed firmly in the bin, a screaming fit, followed by it being stamped on, and a screaming fit, followed by torture of the offending dummy owner (kicking, biting, scratching,) followed by an attempt to permanently disfigure the dummy by any means possible. I fear that one day soon, there will be a gangland execution for any dummy and its owner, found to be in someone else’s stomping ground.

I have always been a ‘never say never’ person. I felt the same about how I was going to bring my children up, I read a lot about the do’s and don’ts of feeding, what they should wear to sleep in, exactly what their poo should look and smell like before you start freaking out and making panicked phonecalls, etc, but ultimately thought that I’d do what came naturally. But for some reason, I really, REALLY didn’t want my children to have dummies. I was one of those clueless knobheads who thought that dummies were for lazy parents who couldn’t be bothered to comfort their child if it cried, and shoved a dummy their way as a quick fix. Yes, one of those naïve, childless people who need a slap, because they actually have no idea what dummies are really for. I didn’t realise they are excellent for colicky babies. I didn’t realise that some babies had such a strong, relentless urge to suck, that the whole time they weren’t sucking, they’d be screaming. I didn’t realise it would take me all of 24 hours before the following conversation would take place in my house:

Me: Get to the shop, and get the fucking dummies.
Husband: Errrrr, it’s 3am.
Me: Right, ok, I thought it was later than that. Go.
Husband: But it’s 3am, where will I get them? And I thought you didn’t like the look of them.
Me: Get on google, find a 24 hour shop, and GO. And do you really think baby aesthetics is top of my list of priorities right now? Do you? Do you hate me and want me to suffer any more of this? Have my nipples disintegrated like lollipops yet from the relentless fucking sucking?? Have they?? HAVE THEY??????????? GOOOOOOOOOO.
Husband: (With the terrified look of both a new Father and someone with a hormone ravaged, exhausted wife) Right you are, see you in a bit…

And thus, our first dummy addict was born. With the introduction of that little bit of plastic, which at that point held more value to me than anything I owned, peace ensued, and my nipples were stripped of their role as human pacifier. Dummies were initially limited to night time only. Then night time plus daytime naps. But with every addiction, the more you have it, the more you want it, and the eldest got to the point that he would do anything to have his dummy in constantly. And like every conversation that happens in our house regarding what we are going to do with the children, all the things we tell ourselves we are going to do, never happen. We said we would take it away on his first birthday. Then his second, then his third… Now it looks like we’ll be packing him off to university with a dummy firmly attached to his mouth.

The second baby didn’t need a dummy at first, he was a much more settled baby. But once when he was crawling, he found a discarded dummy on the floor, and one hit was all it took… For us to now have 2 addicts on our hands. We are currently in the middle of cold turkey daytime dummy withdrawal. It’s not going well. During our first outing with two cold turkey toddlers, to playgroup, there was a code red emergency where a baby in the fenced off baby area dropped its dummy on the floor. Both my addicts immediately made a move, desperately trying to scale the fence, snarling and salivating at the prospect of reaching that dummy, that precious prize, the hit they were being denied. It was like a scene from The Walking Dead.

I am trying to keep the children away from places where I know there will be dummies. Chemists trips are a no go at the moment. You will find me weaving stealthily around the pregnancy tests (hopefully they will never be needed again) past the Tena Lady (should really get some of those) like the ninja that I am, to avoid The Dummy Section. There has to be constant vigilance, as soon as they see the shelves lined with brand spanking new, shiny dummies, there is pleading, bargaining, then eventually a huge tantrum when they realise what they see can’t be theirs. Like sniffer dogs, they are capable of sniffing out a dummy from at least a mile away. I have to check coat pockets, under beds, and any dark corner where dummies I missed may have been squirreled away, ready for a sucking hit when my back is turned. I have to ask friends to put any dummies of their own away when we are visiting. I can’t let the children be surrounded by other dummy users. If I put one dummy in a room, with both of them, I’ve no doubt they would fight to the death over it. The dummy battle is a constant one.

The cold turkey daytime strategy is still very hit and miss. Sometimes I curse myself for not being stronger, and just rounding up all the dummies and chucking them out, not even allowing them for night time. But I’m too weak for that at the moment. My husband attempted this, just last week. He suddenly announced ‘right, that’s it. They’ve got to go,’ and chucked them all. Not even a visit from the dummy fairy (which is something else we have debated trying.) After he did this, he promptly buggered off out the door to work, leaving me to deal with the consequences. Needless to say, within less than 2 hours, I was at the shop making a panic purchase. And by the law of sod, all they had was flipping pink, lurid ones… Not even the thought of gender neutrality could make them look any better on my two, very much boyish boys…

So, that is where we are at. The turf war continues, and addiction presides. Any useful tips regarding weaning from dummies will be gratefully received! (I’m not really expecting any practical advice, don’t worry! Just raise a glass to me and have a glass of Sauvignon on my behalf will be fine!) I will be reaching for the wine/vodka until this is over and I can restrategise!!

Thanks for reading!

xoxo

UPDATE: Three months after the publication of this post, the eldest entered dummy rehab, and has been successfully dummy free since. The second baby still has a crack style addiction to his-we are working on it…!

89 Comments

  1. October 28, 2015 / 4:04 pm

    We never used dummies and I’m so glad – sounds like a nightmare! #bestandworst

    • This Mum's Life
      October 28, 2015 / 5:49 pm

      Ah, well lucky you! Hopefully you had a colic free house! I wish we were lucky enough to have self soothing children, mine wanted to suck on me constantly!! It is a nightmare, but I wouldn’t change the decision for anything, in a hormonal, PND haze, they helped keep me sane!
      Thanks for reading and commenting.
      X

  2. October 28, 2015 / 5:14 pm

    I love the style in which this is written, really me made giggle 🙂 I’m sorry I don’t have any practical advice, I would hate to have to try and do this! #bestandworst
    Debbie

    • This Mum's Life
      October 28, 2015 / 5:42 pm

      Hi Debbie!! I’m really glad you enjoyed the style that it was written! I thought it may have been a little controversial, but it’s all tongue in cheek, and suited my sense of humour too! Thanks for taking the time to read and comment.
      X

  3. October 28, 2015 / 9:12 pm

    I love the analogy, I can picture the scaling of the fence to the baby’s dummy! I was exactly the same as you pre-baby ‘I will never be a dummy-using parent’…yes because I didn’t know what a dummy was actually useful for!! My midwife suggested it about 3 weeks in because we had a strong sucker and it definitely settled his tum. I don’t know that I really have any advice though…I know helpful aren’t I!? Bet you’re really glad I’m commenting! My son is just over two and has his dummy for bedtime and if he’s going to nap in the car. We have a bowl in the kitchen…the ‘kitchen bowl’…he has to put his dummy in it in the morning so I guess you could try some sort of fun parking bay for the dummies during the day? Try more fun than a kitchen bowl! Maybe a pretend barn if they like farms or a garage if they like cars etc. Where they could be in control of where it is but they’re not allowed it again until sleep/car or whatever you decide. I don’t know! I do know that the thought of going cold-turkey is a horrifying one, and I both admire and am appalled by your husband!!!! Hope you get some good advice #bestandworst

    • This Mum's Life
      October 30, 2015 / 6:46 am

      Oooh, another good suggestion!! The eldest is very much always wanting to be in control, so maybe if we did have a special place, where he knew it was there, he might be a bit better about the whole thing!
      Nice to meet another ‘dummies are ridiculous’ parent, prior to the screaming commencing…! They can be both pure gold, or pure evil can’t they?!
      Thanks for reading, and for your suggestions!
      X

  4. October 29, 2015 / 7:17 am

    Bahahaha – I love that first dummy conversation. Sounds exactly like something that happened at our house. I have a friend who recently took her toddler down to the lake for a ceremonial handing over the dummies to the baby ducks, who were oh so very sad without them. Apparently it worked. I’d be keeping a backup supply just in case. #coolmumclub

    • This Mum's Life
      October 30, 2015 / 6:39 am

      Now this one sounds interesting… And not like anything we’ve tried before! This is going straight to the top of my list of strategies to try!!
      Thanks for reading and commenting!
      X

  5. October 29, 2015 / 8:43 am

    Sounds rough. I’ve heard a few parents talking about sending them all away with Santa for the poor babies who don’t have any in exchange for a special present.
    #coolmumsclub

    • This Mum's Life
      October 30, 2015 / 6:37 am

      It’s worth a try!!!! I can understand the youngest still wanting his, but I think the addiction in the eldest is worse, and at 3, I can’t understand how he’d constantly want this annoying thing constantly in his mouth!!!!
      Thanks for reading and commenting!
      X

  6. October 29, 2015 / 8:57 am

    I don’t have any advice I’m afraid only sympathy as currently in exactly the same boat. My son is 2.5 and very much addicted. I’ve tried to wean it down to night time only but I’m took weak and always cave. I think the only way I’m going to manage it is completely cold turkey and I mean having zero dummies in the house. I am DREADING it but can’t see any other option at this point x

    #coolmumclub

    • This Mum's Life
      October 30, 2015 / 6:41 am

      I think your right, cold turkey is probably the only real way…! Maybe a short, horrendous hit of screaming, for a wonderful long term gain??! Do I sound optimistic?!
      Thanks for reading and commenting!
      X

  7. October 29, 2015 / 1:20 pm

    I keep saying “Next week, we’ll ditch the dummy”. Still not there. SB is a fully-fledged dummy addict. I managed to keep her without them for the first twelve weeks, got all smug and “ooh aren’t I a great mum”… then suddenly she decided “Hey, I like this sucking business, I want to do it ALL THE TIME” and almost 18 months later, we have a dummy addict. I think we’ll attempt to “send them to Santa” at Christmastime…. although I predict I’ll chicken out and she’ll still be happy with her dummy in six month’ time! Great post!
    #coolmumclub

    • This Mum's Life
      October 30, 2015 / 6:34 am

      Sympathies, fellow parent of an addict!! If I had a pound for every time I chickened out of taking them away, I’d be rich!! Good luck with getting rid of them at Christmas, let me know how it goes!!
      X

  8. October 29, 2015 / 10:35 pm

    Oh you poor thing, I am going through this with my youngest and can’t imagine how dreadful it would be times two! I am aiming for Christmas – getting her to leave them out with the carrots and mince pie. But I don’t want to ruin Christmas with her nagging for it the whole time! My health visitor told me the best time is under one (long gone!) or over three as that’s when the understand it. Hmm. She’ll be three in March. I’m just a bit worried about her teeth. One thing I read about is piercing them with a pin (the dummy, not the child ;-)) so they lose their ‘suckiness’ and apparently they will magically decide of their own accord that they no longer want them as they don’t work any more. I’m not convinced but it’s worth a try! Good luck! Becky x #bestandworst

    • This Mum's Life
      October 30, 2015 / 6:29 am

      Aaah, I’ve not heard of this!! I will definitely give this a try!! I’m sure something will work eventually, if not, off to uni with a dummy it is!!!! Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment.
      X

  9. October 30, 2015 / 7:29 am

    I managed to contain my boys dummy addiction to bedtimes only. We used christmas when they were 3 to give it up. They put rheir dummy out alongside the cookie, glass or milk and carrot for father christmas to take when he came delivering. In return fsther christmas left a special ‘your a big boy now’ present in its place. Rather like the tooth fairy.
    It worked a treat with both mine xx
    Thanks for linking up, Tracey xx #abitofeverything

    • This Mum's Life
      October 31, 2015 / 8:37 am

      Thanks Tracey, I’m going to systematically go through all these suggestions until we have a winner!! A blog post in the making maybe?!
      Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment.
      X

      • October 31, 2015 / 12:30 pm

        Oh, you have caught the blogger bug havent you. Everythin in your life is now a potential blog post. Its great 😀

        • This Mum's Life
          October 31, 2015 / 1:01 pm

          Totally!! I feel like a new person since I started blogging!
          X

  10. October 30, 2015 / 8:21 am

    I promise I’m not laughing at your misfortune, but that was funny! Especially the Walking Dead analogy! My baby was in the neo-natal unit for a while when born and the nurses gave him a dummy (or soother they called it), without even asking us. I was a little bit put out because I hadn’t been planning on giving him one, but they had their reasons. Anyway, he still has it in bed (he’s 1 now), but it stays in his cot when he gets up, he doesn’t miss it at other times. Hope you’re able to restore peace soon! #coolmumclub

    • This Mum's Life
      October 31, 2015 / 8:36 am

      I’m glad you laughed, I didn’t want it to be a serious post really!! I take it you watch The Walking Dead?! When they did that, I was too busy laughing at them looking like crazed zombies, to do anything about it! They would totally have ripped the flesh from those babies for that dummy!
      Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment.
      X

  11. October 31, 2015 / 7:44 pm

    Ah, I cannot tell you how much this blog made me laugh – I have tears in my eyes. The hubby is also reading over my shoulder cracking up too. We ‘attempted’ going cold turkey with the dummy for dangermouse this week….was a total disaster and left me feeling like the worst parent ever when it turned out she had a chest infection. We gave it back. And so, it continues. Thanks so much for linking up to #coolmumclub; you, quite frankly, Rock.

    • This Mum's Life
      November 1, 2015 / 12:30 pm

      Best. Comment. Ever. !!!!!! I’m so glad it’s making you laugh, that was one of my biggest aims for this blog!! It’s amazing to have someone who likes it and identifies with the content so much!! So chuffed your husband was laughing too!
      Sooooo proud to be in the #coolmumclub!!!
      Thanks so much for reading and commenting!
      X

  12. October 31, 2015 / 8:03 pm

    My daughter didn’t have a dummy until 8 months old – smug, my-child-would-never-have-a-dummy types used to say to me, ‘oh isn’t it brilliant she doesn’t use a dummy?’ Yes, it was so brilliant that she didn’t sleep through the night until I had tried every single dummy there was in the shop – the day she eventually took it was a day of great celebration. (My older child had one and slept through at eleven weeks) I practically forced it on her! It was like crack to her and I had nightmares about making her give it up. Age three she gave it to the dummy fairies to be taken to babies who needed it more, and they left a present in it’s place. She never mentioned it again. Good luck!

    • This Mum's Life
      November 1, 2015 / 12:25 pm

      Thanks!! I think we need to push the Dummy Fairy idea a bit harder!!!! It does seem to have worked for most people!! It is also referred to as crack for babies in our house too…!!
      Thanks for reading and commenting!
      X

  13. October 31, 2015 / 8:29 pm

    We have a dummy addict here too. She shall be FOUR in February and everyone tells us she shouldn’t have a dummy anymore….the pressure is really on! We have limited it to night times only but there are times she will cry for it in the day when she is tired or poorly. We have tried bribery, we’ve tried rewards, treats, going cold turkey…nothing works and this Mama is way too soft to let her scream and scream for it. I’m not sure what the answer is, I’m hoping she will just grow out of it. Thank god none of my other three had a dummy!!!! #justanotherlinky

    • This Mum's Life
      November 1, 2015 / 12:23 pm

      Exactly the same here, to ALL of that!! The eldest is the worst, and we’ve said his third birthday will be the end of dummies, but I’m sure that won’t happen!! And it does break my heart when he cries for it in the day… This is SO hard to deal with!! Thanks for reading and commenting.
      X

  14. November 1, 2015 / 1:50 am

    Love this post! Well written and wickedly funny as well. We don’t have that at home but can empathise xx

    • This Mum's Life
      November 1, 2015 / 12:19 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it El!! Thanks for reading and commenting.
      X

  15. November 3, 2015 / 9:29 pm

    Love this post, made me giggle!! We ditched the dummies not so long ago…it wasn’t as horrendous as I thought it would be but I have to admit I kept the stash ‘just in case’!! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself just go with the flow. Thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst and hope to see you again! x

    • This Mum's Life
      November 4, 2015 / 4:50 pm

      I’m so glad you liked it! I go through phases of thinking I must get rid of dummies NOW, then reminding myself they will both give them up eventually! My latest post is linked up with you guys! Thanks for reading and commenting!
      X

  16. November 5, 2015 / 1:36 pm

    I feel your pain! Both my boys had a dummy – people tutted, I didn’t care, it gave me a break. But the getting rid of them eek! Good luck, mine once they got used to it were fab. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

    • This Mum's Life
      November 6, 2015 / 9:47 am

      Yes, I know it’ll be short term pain for long term gain, but cold turkey is sooooo hard!! Isn’t it awful that people tut?! Even if they don’t personally like it, they should keep it to themselves!!
      Thanks for reading and commenting!
      X

  17. November 5, 2015 / 9:16 pm

    Awesome post. Sorry I can’t offer any advice, my youngest boy had a thing for sand.. thankfully he’s grown out of it but he would scoop spade fulls of the stuff.. Good Luck!

  18. November 6, 2015 / 7:22 pm

    That conversation is priceless haha! My eldest had her dummy until about 4 years old and my youngest never had dummy! thank you for linking up with #justanotherlinky

    • This Mum's Life
      November 7, 2015 / 7:37 am

      I’m thinking that my eldest will definitely have it until 4!! Maybe longer…!!
      Thanks for reading and commenting!

    • This Mum's Life
      December 4, 2015 / 10:27 pm

      Thank you! I’m so glad you liked it! Yes, I’m surprised the dummy debate hasn’t made it to parliament yet!!!!
      Thanks for reading and commenting!
      x

  19. May 19, 2016 / 7:39 pm

    I just stumbled across this (very funny) post. I hope you managed to find a way to ditch the dummies eventually! I very naively hated them pre-actual-motherhood too, then spent the last two years trying to wean my first child off her sodding thumb. Hence why I popped a dummy in the second baby’s mouth pretty much immediately, At 10 months he is well on the way to being a full-blown addict. I LOL’d at your two and their Avent vs MAM turf war – mine definitely wouldn’t be welcome as he’s in the rival Tommee Tippee crew…

  20. Laura smith
    June 27, 2016 / 3:51 pm

    This sound very similar to my house where my daughters (2 and 4) are in the midst of suffering from severe dummy addition. Any attempt to remove the dummies from their mouths is perilous, possibly involving screaming, aggression, or even self harm. The dummy turf war isn’t as severe here but my 4 year old will only accept mam dummies, the offer of anything else will result in looks of confusion, followed by demands for a different dummy, and then screaming. Luckily our 2 year old will use any dummy, unluckily this means if she wants a dummy when we are out (possibly with her baby cousin,) she will steal the baby’s dummy and run away, which can result in some quiet amusing senses of me chasing her down the road. Back in January my husband decided to bin all the dummies in the house, we lasted about 2 nights of screaming before we had a similar conversion to you and your husband. I don’t think I will ever be able to rid these dummies from my house, at this rate they will be sucking them at 21.

  21. August 14, 2016 / 5:11 pm

    We have the dummies and they have been great comfort to my babies. My first spent time in hospital (all great now) and the nurses asked could they use a dummy for her. She was too small to treat with books or toys. I said yes and it helped a very upset little mite. Now we are Nuk fans and the elf on the shelf will chat Santa and send a message for the dummies to go when the time comes. I am not panicking. They are only when the girls sleep and they haven’t caused me any guilt. Enjoyed post tremendously thank you!

  22. August 15, 2016 / 6:36 am

    I really like the way you’ve written this. I’ve not been there yet but what would happen if you put something horrible tasting on them like vinegar? Would they go off them? Or is that just too cruel? #bigpinklink

    • This Mum's Life
      August 15, 2016 / 6:40 am

      I’m sure there’s probably a rule somewhere that says you shouldn’t do that-but that’s actually a really good idea!! I’m off to hunt down the vinegar…

  23. August 15, 2016 / 6:44 am

    haha I love the 3 month update, and The Walking Dead description. My girls weren’t fans of the dummy, Aspen thought my nipple was dummy! April wasn’t fussed she had one a little bit but no addiction. Enter baby 3 and our world was changed forever, there were dummies everywhere, one or sometimes two in his mouth, one or more in each hand. It took us until he was 4 and an incurably painful cold turkey situation before we said goodbye to the last dummy. He held it and cuddled it goodbye, it was actually heartbreaking to watch. He is now obsessed with a cushion that he affectionately calls “pillow”, it now has all it’s stuffing hanging out and is so embarrassing, but he can’t sleep without it! #bigpinklink

  24. August 15, 2016 / 7:11 am

    And the battles rage on! I was in such a state of delirium after child birth I completely forgot about dummies. Then when I ‘came to’, they weren’t interested. Good luck!!! #bigpinklink

  25. August 15, 2016 / 8:01 am

    Brilliant analogy – I can only imagine. I have a hard enough time with the ‘muzzies’ at the moment (bits of cloth that used to have patterns on them but are now grey, feeble rags which are, apparently, as vital to life as water to both children. I know I need to wean NG off it before she starts school but that’s still a year away so I’m living in blissful denial. As for dummies, I was of your mindset… until NC came along. Reflux = dummies in my book! #bigpinklink

  26. August 15, 2016 / 8:10 am

    Hahahaha, this is brilliant! Yay for oldest managing the dummy detox! We had to bribe Oldest in the end. We posted her dummies in the post-box to the dummy fairy so the new babies could have them. We told her she had to do this or there would be no CHRISTMAS PRESENTS. I am a bad mummy but it worked so you know… 😉 #bigpinklink

  27. August 15, 2016 / 8:33 am

    This is so funny!!! I love your way with words. #bigpinklink

  28. August 15, 2016 / 8:42 am

    My daughter wasn’t that into dummies at first – she might use them to help her settle at night or for a nap. Then she started nursery and it was all dummies, all the time. She had a really hard time adjusting at first, and the dummies helped calm her down. The problem is that now if she sees one during the day, she grabs it and sticks it in her mouth. I’d like to get back to a bedtime/nap time only dummy routine, but I don’t see that happening anytime soon. We have a proper dummy addict on our hands. #bigpinklink

  29. August 15, 2016 / 9:44 am

    I think everyone turns their nose up at the dummy until they actually have a child and realise just how useful they are. Both mine had them because it helped with their colic but only when they were sleeping. To be honest they both used them until about the age of 3 and just decided themselves to stop using them. Maybe I had it easy but I am firmly in the camp of use them if they help and don’t worry about it. #bigpinklink

  30. August 15, 2016 / 9:44 am

    Our ‘big one’ is also a recovering dummy addict – although he hasn’t had his for over a year now – every now and then though I catch him with his brothers in his mouth – although I think this is more to wind the ‘little one’ up than an addiction hit! We went cold turkey on his dummy…at Christmas…after he’d given it to Santa in return for a toy of his choice – it worked like a dream! He asked for it a few times and we just reminded him that Santa had it and was bringing him the (god awful, huge and LOUD) boat he’d asked him for. I’m not going to lie, I was dreading this but it was a hundred MILLION times easier than I could ever have imagined! Try it, and if you can’t wait till Christmas maybe give it to the fairies in return for a gift? #bigpinklink

  31. August 15, 2016 / 9:58 am

    When little and big were, well, little, we would have paid top dollar to get a dummy to work. Oh how those pipes roared. We had a neighbor who could hear big through the walls of our home into her bedroom. She thanked the Mrs. and I for helping her to be faithful to her birth control! Embarassed? A bit. If only those binky’s woudl have worked with our kids. Fast forward 8.5 years and we are so very sleep deprived. Those poor neighbors of ours probably have 3 dogs and 12 cats and will never change a diaper ever. Oh, how we wished for the binky…
    I hope you get through this pain soon! #bigpinklink

  32. August 15, 2016 / 10:42 am

    I was of the “if he needs it he needs it, lets see how it goes” mentality. I had pre purchased 2 dummies in anticipation, but I didn’t plan to use them right away if they were required. The decision got taken out of my hands when the neonatal nurses gave him one at a few hours old. 5 and a half months on he’s already an addict. I see drama in our future! #bigpinklink

  33. August 15, 2016 / 2:16 pm

    I have tried giving a dummy to my eldest when he was still a baby to comfort him, but didn’t work and he didn’t like it either. So no dummy for both my kids fortunately. It’s great to read your update, one is off dummy now. Then one to go, Good luck! #bigpinklink

  34. August 15, 2016 / 2:24 pm

    Oh dear lovely. I am sending so much wine. Maybe you could get one for grown ups, and fill it with vodka? Neither of The Tots were willing to have a dummy (believe me – I was all for it during The Screaming). Miss Tot now insists on sucking one of those teddies holding a little blanket. It stinks. We have a rotating selection. They all stink despite living half of their lives in the washing machine. At least dummies can be washed – so there’s that? 😉 Hugs and cake x #bigpinklink

  35. August 15, 2016 / 2:51 pm

    love this post so much, it makes me feel happy and not annoyed about the dummy saga!!! oh and is your dummy rehab open for other children…please?!? my daughter has a serious addiction, it happen at about 6 months, bad teething = no sleep so after a whole day of screaming and crying i suddenly remembered i can been given some free dummies (limited edition royal baby ones i must add) so ran upstairs and ripped that packed open so quickly…pop…silence….heaven! Now 2 and half she is still loving them, she now has 3 at bed time…and none in the day unless I’m weak! thanks for writing such an honest post.

  36. August 15, 2016 / 2:59 pm

    Ha! I was one of these pre-mummy women too!I thought dummies were a dreadful idea but having had 2 babies I am all for trying anything until something works!! we only got as far as sterilising the dummy with my first and whilst I was eagerly waiting for the microwave to do it’s thing he passed out and seemingly transformed over his nap into something all together more pleasant. My daughter came out sucking her thumb and hasn’t taken it out since. If it weren’t for that, I had already decided before she came I would defo be giving them a go if I needed to! I feel your nipple pain!!! My boobs agree with you whole heartedly! #bigpinklink

  37. August 15, 2016 / 3:28 pm

    No advice, as we never introduce a dummy… though with still breastfeeding at 18 months I seemed to have become the dummy (in more ways than one!) Hope you get number 2 eased off as well. #bigpinklink

    Nadia – ScandiMummy x

  38. August 15, 2016 / 4:01 pm

    Max gave his up no problem at about 2.5, easy peasy. Evie, however is 3.5 and constantly has the dummy in her mouth! She’s a nightmare with it and won’t give it up 🙁 x #bigpinklink

  39. August 15, 2016 / 5:36 pm

    Thank go for that, we had the dummy when the colics arrived! Now, he likes it but not addicted yet. But now you are scaring me! Poor husband at 3 am in the morning… #bigpinklink

  40. August 15, 2016 / 6:20 pm

    This made me chuckle. We didn’t use dummies because I reached a point where I couldn’t add anything else to think about to my poor overworked brain. Not sure this was the best tactic as I went through three months of having a baby attached to me day and night! #bigpinklink

  41. August 15, 2016 / 7:08 pm

    I hugely related to this, we also had a nightmare getting the dummy off my daughter, the only one of my children to ever use a dummy. I wrote a post about it last year, dummy v mummy and I’m afraid that at the time, dummy won! Since then she gave it up in her own time, and I think that’s the advice I would give to anyone. When they’re ready, they’ll let it go. #bigpinklink

  42. August 15, 2016 / 7:12 pm

    I love your writing style! Well done on cracking one addiction. Dummies certainly have there place. Good luck with number 2! Alison x #BigPinkLink

  43. August 15, 2016 / 7:21 pm

    So funny. Hope they have now both cracked the habit and are dummy free! #bigpinklink

  44. August 15, 2016 / 7:22 pm

    I’m lucky that neither of mine ever took to dummies but I have a few friends who are currently very much in this situation. I loved the reference to The Walking Dead, gave me a perfect vision of your two boys and the elusive dummy! Thank you for having me guest host with you #bigpinklink xx

  45. August 15, 2016 / 8:06 pm

    I had a dummy addict and a dummy shunner! The addict would only sleep with a dummy in but woke several times a night when it fell out and wouldn’t part with it until she was old enough to send a letter to a fairy to arrange the terms of giving it up! Glad to see your addict is in recovery!
    #Bigpinklink

  46. August 15, 2016 / 8:07 pm

    Ahh bless you! I feel your pain, though my 3 didn’t have dummies, the oldest sucked her thumb which I think was worse as you can’t take that away! She was 7 before we eventually broke the habit. I’m currently drinking a glass of white dedicated to your plight! Xx #bigpinklink

  47. August 15, 2016 / 8:22 pm

    This was hillarious to read! IVe never really had this probelm as Holly only had one for the first 6 weeks or so then we used it sparingly. So she never really had the want i suppose for one. But I respect everyones opinion and i have no problem with other people giving their kids dummies. Your post was amazing though haha.
    Lx
    http://workingmumy.blogspot.com
    #BigPinkLink

  48. August 15, 2016 / 9:03 pm

    So funny, been there done that. When my daughter was four we actually had a ceremony to get rid of it. She had to go school lol.

  49. August 16, 2016 / 7:25 am

    Haha love how this post is written. It really does sound like a war! I remember willingly giving my dummy up – can’t remember how old but old enough to just about remember – I agreed to leave it by my bed one night and when I woke up in the morning it had been replaced with a Care Bear and I never asked for it again! Glad you’ve weaned one addict off the hard stuff, good luck for number two! #BigPinkLink

  50. August 16, 2016 / 8:08 am

    Ah I remember this post well from first time round and I feel horribly inadequate because mine still has their dummy at nighttime and I’m not brave enough to deal with a few nights broken sleep at 36 weeks pregnant to do anything about it. Although we do talk a lot about the dummy fairy at the moment…they will take all the dummies and turn them into a garden waste bin (yes this is the treat). I really must get onto the council about it. Courage! What was your approach for rehab with the eldest? #bigpinklink

  51. Nige
    August 16, 2016 / 8:35 am

    Fab post we are about to have dummy wars with twins after reading this can’t wait thanks fore hosting #bigpinklink

  52. August 16, 2016 / 9:08 am

    Oh good luck! I feel your pain. I thought I had a dummy addict and took it off him cold turkey. He took it remarkable well and stopped asking for it after a couple of days. We do sometimes have an occasional relapse but I just remind him that we don’t have them anymore. #bigpinklink

  53. August 16, 2016 / 10:50 am

    eek, so glad my boys didn’ take dummies now, they just spat them out in protest. Good luck with the weaning, hope it is not too challenging X #bigpinklink

  54. August 16, 2016 / 12:22 pm

    My eldest is one and I keep thinking we ought to start to try and wean her off of her dummy…maybe next week!!

    #bigpinklink

  55. August 16, 2016 / 12:31 pm

    This made me laugh out loud and say yes been there!! A late night trip to tesco (approximately 1am!). I used to worry so much that she was becoming so dependant on it but nit as much now. Will deal with the withdrawal of it when that time comes. Thanks for the tips!! Really made me chuckle! 😀😀😀 #bigpinklink

  56. August 16, 2016 / 5:18 pm

    Oh I hate to say it but this is soooo going to be us unfortunately! Baby Lighty is currently snuggled in my lap watching CBeebies, dummy in mouth, while I catch up on blog reading (bad mother, I know!). I can’t see how we’ll ever ditch the dummy to be honest. Any tips greatly received! PS, this post really made me laugh!! #bigpinklink

  57. August 16, 2016 / 10:11 pm

    My eldest 3 never took to dummies.. The younger 1 .. Well.. I’m not brave enough yet to enter “Dummy Rehab” with her.. That is the perfect description by the way! haha! #bigpinklink

  58. August 17, 2016 / 7:53 pm

    Oh yes the dummys! My elddest had a dummy until she was 4. She threw it away herself when the nursery staff told her she can’t move up to the pre school room if she has a dummy. She looked at me, took it out of her mouth and chucked it. No looking back! My youngest thankfully never wanted one! Phew! #BigPinkLink

  59. August 17, 2016 / 8:40 pm

    My little one has a dummy that my OH is saying we now need to get rid of (shes nearly 9 months) not quite sure how we are going to do it though as she will only sleep with one in! #bigpinklink

  60. August 18, 2016 / 7:34 pm

    Ha ha this made me laugh I just have visions of rabid toddlers trying to get through the fence to the baby area! Its a tough one to crack, glad to hear the eldest has got there. Sure Mini Assassin will find other things more dangerous to distract him soon! Thanks for hosting #BigPinkLink

  61. August 19, 2016 / 10:52 am

    Yeah I was one of those clueless knobheads too. My knobheadness continued with baby 1 who did not have a dummy. Baby 2 however was pretty quickly stuffed with one. He needed the comfort of a dummy, as did I. I am very much in the camp of whatever gets you through the day, or night and to that end – all hail the dummy. He is one now and still very keen on the dummy especially at night. He can have at 20 if it gives us a nights sleep! Famous last words eh xx #bigpinklink

  62. August 19, 2016 / 1:55 pm

    Oooh this brings back memories!! I gave both mine dummies and loved the fact that it stopped the endless need for sucking and finally got me some peace and quiet. The problem came when aged 2 and a half, they showed no sign of EVER giving them up!! I had visions of them both going to secondary school with a dummy in their mouth. I used a dummy fairy. Found out a present that they really wanted and then got them to put all the dummies in a pretty bag and hung it out in the garden. The present seemed to stop a lot of the whinging and moaning for the missing dummy. Never had to deal with a turf war on dummies though!! Thanks for hosting #BigPinkLink x

  63. August 19, 2016 / 8:17 pm

    haha loved your update at the end!! You end is finally in sight and sounds like there. We used Santa last Christmas and it worked but the grem still loves to find old ones, or ones given away at Brit Mums for her sister!! She just loves to have one in her mouth at almost 3 years old too. The grem was never that fussed about giving it up but what was so annoying was she only got into them around 18 months when her toy babies had them!!! Thanks for hosting lovely xx

  64. August 21, 2016 / 8:32 am

    I tried to start an addiction with both of mine, but they just weren’t having any of it much to my dismay. Of course it has been better in the long run as we haven’t had to send them to rehab, but at the time they really needed them. I am still paying the bills for therapy for all the neighbours who have had to listen to their incessant wailing for the past few years. I’m surprised that they didn’t post anonymous dummies through our letter box! Good luck with your youngest xx

    #bigpinklink

  65. August 21, 2016 / 4:14 pm

    Haha! Eldest had dummies. Actually did successfully stop using them to settle tantrums whilst awake by 6 months – so she only used them for sleep. Had intended to remove entirely by 1 year, but she still wasn’t sleeping well by then & she then started to sleep properly, but used the dummy to settle herself, so left it. Briefly tried to remove it at 2, but that wrecked her sleep, which was a shame as she had become a really good sleeper and settler by then. At 3, did break her of using it to sleep at night, but she would not nap without it. Would have been fine if she didn’t still need a nap, but she often does, & got more & more tired & grumpy. I think the problem was that with light & distractions in day, she needed the dummy to lull her to sleep, or she would let herself be distracted & stay awake. So now at 3 years 4 months she has a dummy only for naps. Little one has never really been interested in them. If she sees one, she will pick it up & walk around with it, but has rarely ever used them for their intended purpose. Essentially, dummy use here has been for longer than I intended, but I wouldn’t say it has been excessive, so I have decided not to worry about it! Mine has a favoured brand too! #bigpinklink

  66. August 27, 2016 / 8:42 pm

    My eldest was weaned pretty easily after a year and my son wouldn’t take one! I tried SO hard to get him to take, trust me. I’m giggling at the thought of you doing mission impossible style avoidance manoeuvres of the dummy displays! 😀

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