The One With The Blogiversary Post

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So, dear readers, it’s my blogiversary, and I won’t cry ‘cause I don’t need to, cry ‘cause I don’t need to, cry ‘cause I don’t need to! It’s my blogiversary and… well, you get the picture, I’m sure I don’t need a full rendition of The Lesley Gore classic! Yes, I have reached a blogiversary! Not a full one, but I’ve gone the way of the Queen, and I’m celebrating my 6 month blogiversary! 6 whole months since I pressed publish for the very first time…

I’d wanted to start a blog since the first baby came along. I had so much stuff doing an evil carousel round and round in my head, that I was desperate for a place just to dump it all. Somewhere it didn’t matter if people read it or not, it would just be for me to try and work out the things I didn’t want to tell other people about. I used to walk aimlessly for hours and hours with the pushchair, imagining how the things in my head would translate to the computer screen-I actively planned posts while I walked. But… I didn’t do it. I didn’t ‘get around’ to it, (which is really a pseudonym for talking myself out of doing it because my confidence had also legged it somewhere along with my dignity, sanity, stomach muscles, and half of my brain.) Cue arrival of baby number 2…! After he came along, the fog of postnatal craziness that I descended into, and the challenges I faced getting better, gave me so much material, plus a real need to try and identify with other people who felt the same as me, and identified with my humour (at the time I didn’t think I could openly compare motherhood to being in prison, or compare my children to drug addicts, without fear of being judged.)

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So, 6 months ago, I went for it, and This Mum’s Life was born! I had initially maintained (in my head,) that the blog would always be totally anonymous, as in, I would never give up a single shred of evidence as to who I was, (OK, I sheepishly admit that I was watching Gossip Girl at the time I started the blog, and being the Gossip Girl of the mummy blog world had a huge appeal! *insert kind of mortified but not really face.*) But little did I know I would actually find this really hard. I have no strong feelings towards not being anonymous, I love blogs with lots of pictures of the author, and its subjects (cute children and babies!) and sometimes actually feel like I might identify more with the blogs who I can put a face to, than those I can’t. But at the time, it was important to me to be completely anonymous, because I felt that if people knew who I was, I just wouldn’t be as open and honest as I wanted to be-to me I was treating the blog as a therapist, and you wouldn’t want your therapist shouting your personal information around! But I found myself in blog friendships really quickly, and found it really hard in group chats not to reveal things about myself, it just felt really odd. So a few details about myself are out there, and sometimes I feel like I want to waive the anonymity. I think I will almost definitely do that when the children are older, when the blog will more likely take a different direction, I’m sure that photographic evidence of This Mum’s Empty Nest Meltdown, or This Mum’s Midlife Crisis, will be comedy gold. But I am staying incognito until I work through this in my head.

Back to the blogiversary! There have been times where I have tested my pelvic floor to the max with excitement! (Having posts on Netmums, Mumsnet, and Tots Good Reads were definitely these kind of moments!) and as a real newbie, I can remember the first time I was featured post on a linky (shout out to MMT for that one, I can still remember the excitement Sarah!) and now I am hosting my own linky, and choosing the featured posts myself! The linky is definitely one of my proudest achievements to date (it was the Brainchild of Pink Pear Bear, but I’m so glad to be along for the ride!) and I love doing it, it brings me huge excitement every week to write the introduction for the week, and start reading when the links come in!

Those kind of ‘recognition’ achievements aside, the personal achievements have been huge. The blog has given me a massive sense of purpose-I was so lost, and so in need of motivation in my life when I started it. I now find myself in a community of people, who make up one the most supportive communities I’ve ever been a part of! I’ve met some people blogging who I am desperate to meet in ‘real life’ because I just know they’d be awesome. I’ve learnt that my greatest happiness (apart from my children, well, I kind of have to say that don’t I?!) comes from having a couple of hours to myself, in bed, with my laptop, preferably a glass of wine, working on the blog. It’s been a brilliant 6 months!

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I hope people reading the blog will still be with me for the next 6 months, in my typical style, I have no idea where I’ll be going! I’ll more than likely still be satirising the crazy I find in my life, and getting all serious when I need to get a message across. I’ve come a long way from having no blog header, and no pictures in any posts (yes, really. I just wrote text onto a blank blog!) to having a new header, and just forming an obsession with Picmonkey, where I hope to have all my own photos replacing pixabay ones soon! I need to get to grips with plugins *shudder* follow links, and SEO, although I fear the latter two are akin to decripting the Zodiac Killer code-impossible, and nobody has ever done it.  Although if I’m making ‘goals,’ a viral post would be nice…!

Thanks for reading!

Xoxo (my little nod to Gossip Girl there!)

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Big thanks to El, aka Agent Spitback, Lou from Pink Pear Bear, and Rachel from Our Rach Blogs, you took me under you wings from the beginning, and I’d be lost without you!

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62 Comments

  1. March 7, 2016 / 6:34 am

    Ahhhhh happy blogiversary lovely!! It’s been a pleasure to be your blog buddy & now to have you along as co-host, I couldn’t have done it without you! Here’s to your blog continuing to grow in the amazingly successful way it has so far. It’s a wonderful feeling isn’t it? #bigpinklink

  2. March 7, 2016 / 7:51 am

    Congratulations! You are such an inspiration to a new blogger hoping to stay anonymous. You have done it so well and kept it really engaging and fun to read.
    Xoxo

  3. March 7, 2016 / 7:56 am

    Wow you have achieved so much in 6 months well done you. I would love a Mum’snet/Net Mum’s feature. Fingers crossed one day. #bigpinklink Lifeinthemumslane

  4. Robyn
    March 7, 2016 / 8:45 am

    Congrats on 6 months in the bizz, it sounds like you’re off to a flying start! Good luck with everything you hope to learn and achieve in the next 6, looking forward to following along 🙂

  5. March 7, 2016 / 9:05 am

    Happy Blogiversary! Stunned you’ve only been going 6 months – you’ve accomplished loads! Here’s to the next 6 months!

  6. March 7, 2016 / 9:30 am

    Happy blogiversary honey! I for one am delighted you started blogging as I love your posts and like you nothing is better than bed, blogging and a glass of wine!! Keep writing hun you’re fab and I love being part of #bigpinklink

  7. March 7, 2016 / 9:37 am

    Happy 6 month blogiversary! I have only been blogging for just over a month and love it too. I love how it gives you the opportunity to make new friends with people who you have something in common with #bigpinklink

  8. March 7, 2016 / 9:40 am

    Happy blog birthday! It sounds like you’ve had an amazing journey in a short space of time, very inspiring for a newbie 🙂 I love reading your posts and look forward to reading more in the future! Xoxo (gg fan too)

  9. March 7, 2016 / 10:09 am

    Yayy congratulations on your blogiversary and here’s to many more to come!! This year I’m celebrating my 13 YEAR blogiversary – jeez that makes me feel old and I cant believe I’ve talked for that long! lol

  10. March 7, 2016 / 10:13 am

    Minus watching Gossip Girl my story is almost identical. Had posts written in my head for months or years before number two came along and I got around to it!

    Halppy half bloggiversary.

  11. March 7, 2016 / 10:30 am

    Happy Bloggiversary! 6 months of creativity, therapy and fun. 🙂 Interesting topic you touched on. Staying incognito. I am in the same boat. So far pictures of myself and the kids are a no go. With internet safety and all that you just never know…..Even though i think it is nice when you know what the other people look like and who you are dealing with but I am totally with you. thanks for sharing and go easy on the wine tonight 😉

  12. March 7, 2016 / 10:38 am

    Happy Blogiversary!! You are one of my faves! Love your blog x #BigPinkLink

  13. March 7, 2016 / 10:40 am

    This is really lovely to read! You’ve had some amazing accomplishments that should be celebrated, well done! #bigpinklink

  14. March 7, 2016 / 11:12 am

    Congratulations on the Blogiversary! 😀 I used to have an anonymous blog and I could never stick to it – I either wanted to blog about stuff that would make it too obvious, or I wanted to connect with all the other cool people I was chatting to ‘IRL’! x #bigpinklink

  15. March 7, 2016 / 11:38 am

    Happy 6 month blogiversary! Wow you’ve done SO much, well done! It’s amazing how we get sucked in isn’t it? I really thought similar and 6 months after H was born I started mine. It’s a great purpose community too 🙂 #bigpinklink

  16. March 7, 2016 / 11:43 am

    Happy Blogiversary. May you go from strength to strength! #bigpinklink

  17. March 7, 2016 / 11:59 am

    Aww, Congratulations, I would take that milestone! I totally get the anonymous thing, I’m fairly new to this and I’ve very quickly changed my stance on it. All the pictures I take are of my cute smiley kid, I need to put some pictures on the blog, so out goes being anonymous! Thanks for the linky #bigpinklink

  18. March 7, 2016 / 12:10 pm

    Congratulations on your 6 month blogiversary! It’s amazing what can be done in six months.

    I don’t often notice whether is someone is anonymous on their blog or not. I’m sort of anonymous-ish. I use my first name but I use nicknames for my kids and don’t post pics which show their faces. Maybe one day that’ll change, I don’t know. I think it’s just important to do whatever feels right to you at the time 🙂
    #BigPinkLink

  19. March 7, 2016 / 1:42 pm

    You have achieved so much in 6 months, I really didn’t realise you hadn’t been blogging all that long! I hope your next 6 months are just as successful 🙂 Thank you for hosting #bigpinklink x

  20. March 7, 2016 / 1:59 pm

    Oh I’m in total awe!!! what a fantastic 6 months you’ve had?! Well done! I only started a few months ago and I too am totally overwhelmed with how absolutely gorgeous the blogging community are – I love it and have no intention of quitting anyway soon – it’s amazing isn’t it?! I’ve just signed up to your blog and look forward to reading all your posts and learning how you’ve come so far so quickly! Loving this linky by the way!

  21. March 7, 2016 / 2:03 pm

    Happy Blogiversary! Wow- you have achieved so much in just 6 months! I love your blog and will of course continue reading. #bigpinklink

  22. March 7, 2016 / 2:50 pm

    Happy Blogiversary! What a fun journey you’ve had so far, and I’m wishing you continued joy and success. It would have been a shame if you had not begun This Mum’s Life. It’s funny how many bloggers toy with the idea for so long (including blogging in their heads) before they actually launch. Thank you for sharing and for hosting #BigPinkLink!

  23. March 7, 2016 / 3:54 pm

    Congratulations on your six month blogiversary! I am terrifyingly non-anonymous on my blog. I feel the time will very soon come when my children are mortified by their online presence… oh well. I will cross that bridge when I come to it 😉
    x Alice
    #bigpinklink

  24. March 7, 2016 / 3:58 pm

    Happy blogiversary! Well done you, you’ve done really well. Congrats and keep it up 🙂 #bigpinklink xx

  25. March 7, 2016 / 4:30 pm

    I’m only a month into my blogging adventure and had every intention to remain anonymous……didn’t work out and I do post pictures of me and Effy.

  26. March 7, 2016 / 4:55 pm

    Ah my darling, Happy Blogiversary. I’ve said it before (in fact I say it on a weekly basis) and I’ll say it again, your blog is probably my absolute favourite. You’re such a funny writer, and that for me is an absolute must when indulging in a spot of blog reading. I’m so pleased to have ‘met’ you and consider you one of my ‘online friends too’. I actually think we could’ve been friends in real life!!! Well done on all you have achieved and I look forward to the next 6 months!! xx #bigpinklink

  27. March 7, 2016 / 5:14 pm

    I was in a blogging funk when my blogiversary came around. I’m up and down with my blog. Lately more down as other things have taken priority. But I’ll never give it up completely. I’ve worked too hard on it. So glad you have enjoyed blogging and thank you for hostessing #bigpinklink.

  28. March 7, 2016 / 5:58 pm

    I can’t believe you’ve only been going for 6 months, your blog is soooo fab! Happy blogiversary, and long may it continue! Thanks for hosting #bigpinklink too 🙂

  29. March 7, 2016 / 6:50 pm

    Aw this is lovely 🙂 I feel exactly the same and sometimes wish I’d been anonymous so that I could write some excruciatingly honest posts without my family thinking I’d gone mad. It was two children that did me too – I was pretty happy-go-lucky mum of one but two has been a massive learning curve!! I had to have an outlet for what I was thinking!
    Thanks again for hosting #bigpinklink
    XOXO
    (P.s fight you for Chuck)

  30. March 7, 2016 / 7:18 pm

    Happy half birthday 😄 You’ve done so much in just 6 months!

  31. Papa Tont
    March 7, 2016 / 7:22 pm

    Congratulations on your blog’s anniversary, and what a lot you’ve achieved already. I look forward to seeing where you go from here. Onwards and upwards!

  32. March 7, 2016 / 7:30 pm

    What a lovely post! You have done so well. I totally relate to the whole planning blog posts in my head thing. It was my friends who kindly pointed out to me that Facebook wasn’t the place for my epic parental fails, and a blog may be better. Also need to say a massive thanks to the Anxious Dragon and .agent Spitback who are obviously the mummies of the mummy blogger world. They took me under their world too. Thanks for including me in #thebigpinklink

  33. March 7, 2016 / 7:40 pm

    Massive congrats on your blogging anniversary and wow you have had some brilliant achievements in that short time. It is amazing to compare how your blog has developed a bit like watching your child growing up. Thanks for hosting the Linky,

  34. March 7, 2016 / 7:58 pm

    Happy Blogiversary!! Thanks for hosting! #bigpinklink

  35. March 7, 2016 / 8:06 pm

    Congratulations on your Blogiversary! That’s brilliant and you have done amazing things in such a short time! Looking forward to what the next 6 months brings xx #bigpinklink

  36. March 7, 2016 / 8:11 pm

    Congrats! I can’t believe you’ve only been blogging for 6 months, you’ve achieved so much and co-host a Linky. Your post echoes exactly my feelings and thoughts on setting up a blog, I spend hours each day walking around the park thinking of blog ideas, how I’m going to improve my blog and the idea of blogging was even born in the park. I hope that in 6 months time I can write a similar post to you #inspired #bigpinklink. Claire x

  37. March 7, 2016 / 8:35 pm

    I completely relate to all of this (though I have only been blogging 3 months so far). I also intended to remain anonymous- ish but I have failed miserably at that. Nevermind! Happy Bloversary 🙂 #bigpinklink

  38. March 7, 2016 / 9:36 pm

    Wow I thought you have been blogging much longer. You have achieved so much in 6 months! You have such a fab linky & congrats on making all of those amazing networks good reads! Thanks so much for hosting the big pink link x

  39. March 7, 2016 / 9:37 pm

    ps have no idea why i wrote big in there – i know it’s the pink link. i’m having a moment here i think lol x

    • March 14, 2016 / 3:49 pm

      Just popping back over 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing with us at #bloggerclubuk x

  40. March 7, 2016 / 9:46 pm

    Congratulations on your blogaversary! It sounds like you have achieved a huge amount in a really short time. #bigpinklink

  41. March 7, 2016 / 11:13 pm

    Congratulations! I felt exactly the same before I set up my blog, it took a big life event to push me to do it and now I love it and love having it to look back on. Hope you enjoy the next 6 months just as much. #bigpinklink

  42. March 7, 2016 / 11:52 pm

    Happy blogiversary! Haha! I started mine 3 months ago for similar reasons, with the same thoughts…that I would be anon too. It is actually quite difficult though, especially when posts are very personal or like you say, when you make friends in the blog community. I am really enjoying my blogging journey so far and it’s nice to meet you on it and join in with my first linky each week. I really enjoy all of your posts! #bigpinklink

  43. March 8, 2016 / 12:39 am

    Happy blog anniversary! Congratulations on doing so well thus far! I totally agree with you, being anonymous is very therapeutic, because you get peoples honest views and opinions Rather than people knowing you and not giving you constructive criticism… I am glad you’ve made blogging friends, it really is one of the best communities to be a part of 🙂 xxx

  44. March 8, 2016 / 1:03 am

    Congrats on your BIG accomplishments and happy bloggiversary. It has only been 3 months for us but it seems like forever and I love it so much. I thought about being anonymous but I liked the pics of moms and their families so I followed my own likes. I just choose not to use their names so I use the number in which they are ordered. Here’s to another 6 months! #bigpinklink

  45. March 8, 2016 / 2:18 am

    Congrats, this is fab I am so excited you are doing so well! I started off the same with nothing to identify who I actually was, no pics of me or anything else. But a few friends knew and gradually it started getting around the school who I was (I was not sure how I felt about that). I was surprised by how much everyone was saying nice things to me about my blog and how they enjoyed reading it, but it made it hard for me to be as open as I would have liked. Like you say use the blog as a therapist! But I have gotten more comfortable with opening up and being the true me. I now share photos and recently confused I write under a pseudonym and have different names for my children. It just keeps things a little less personal for them. I think we have to do what we are comfortable with and share what we feel ready to share. You have a lovely blog and I look forward to following your journey further xx #bigpinklink

  46. March 8, 2016 / 1:25 pm

    Congratulations on your bloggiversasy, this is my first visit so yeah for your great post! I think it can be a good idea to stay anonymous so that you can write some more honest posts – you can tackle posts others may stay away from !

  47. March 8, 2016 / 2:03 pm

    Happy Blog Birthday! 🙂

  48. March 8, 2016 / 3:18 pm

    You’re doing well for having been blogging such a short time!

    I have the same thing with the anonymous blogger thing. I try to stay relatively anonymous but there are some identifying features so sometimes I think I should just go for it and name myself so people can put a face to the blogger. I mainly stay anonymous because I write about my boys and their autism and I don’t know if they’ll want all that information out there when they’re older.

    #bigpinklink

  49. March 8, 2016 / 3:52 pm

    Wow congratulations! I can’t believe you’ve only been doing it six months you seem like a pro to me! So glad you started this blog and that it still gives you so much joy. Thanks for hosting #bigpinklink

  50. March 8, 2016 / 5:20 pm

    Congratulations on your blogiversary! I started out trying to be sort of anonymous, cutting off my face in bump photos, but now I’m linked more to twitter and have posted photos of my daughter, I can’t really keep myself anonymous anymore! Looking forward to reading more of your posts going forward, I’m new to the #bigpinklink but love the idea!

  51. March 8, 2016 / 5:23 pm

    Aw congratulations on your blogiversary and yes I do remember the song!!

    I’m quite surprised actually as I thought that you had been blogging for a lot longer. I can relate to a lot of what you say being a totally new blogger myself (not even a month yet). It gives me hope that I will find my way through all the confusion and jargon etc and if I’m really honest the hope that I won’t feel like the gatecrasher at the party forever!!!

    The anonymity is a toughie. I’m kind of half in and half out in a Hokey Cokey way. Although anyone who does know me would recognise the photos of my girls.

    My eldest daughter is dying for me to finish watching Gossip Girl as she has watched it all. I’m still working my way through The Good Wife and Pretty Little Liars though xx

  52. March 8, 2016 / 9:57 pm

    Congratulations to you! I am so happy that you have come so far and you deserve every bit of success and I am sure there is more exciting times in store for you in the future. And I will be there with you, every step of the way, cheering you on and sending you virtual wine and cheese. I am so glad we bumped into each other in blogging space and consider myself lucky that you have become a friend. #bigpinklink

  53. March 8, 2016 / 10:14 pm

    Happy six month bloggiversary! Keep up the good work 🙂 #bigpinklink

  54. March 9, 2016 / 12:55 am

    Congratulations – you’ve achieved loads in 6 months! I wanted to be completely anonymous too, but couldn’t maintain it and blog for Huffpost, so now partially anonymous! I prefer it that way, though I do get that people like to know the personal details & see the pictures. #bigpinklink

  55. March 9, 2016 / 7:13 am

    Happy half a blog birthday!! Yippee! I can’t believe how much you’ve achieved in just 6 months? Featuring in Mumsnet and Netmums you say….? *stares at you in wide eyed admiration*

    Your blog is brilliant and I can’t wait to see what your next six months brings you. I’ll be reading all the way! :0)

    Dawn x
    #bestandworst

  56. March 9, 2016 / 7:45 am

    Wow that 6 months has passed in a whirl! Congratulations hun. You have done so well.Featured posts and a linky! Amazing. I like the anonymous side to your blog. Sometimes I wish I had done the same. Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst xx

  57. March 9, 2016 / 8:59 am

    Congratulations! I’m coming up to my year, really exciting 🙂 #bigpinklink

  58. March 9, 2016 / 10:18 pm

    Happy Bloganniversary! Keep up the good work 🙂 you’re doing great! Xx #BloggerClubUK xx

  59. March 10, 2016 / 2:42 pm

    Woot! Happy anniversary lovely lady totally loving your blog so keep up the fab ramblings! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely x

  60. March 11, 2016 / 2:56 pm

    Yey! Happy blogiversary! You’ve achieved so much in 6 months – it is crazy how obsessed we become with blogging, you really have no idea what’s about to happen to your spare time when you first hit publish! Love your ramblings keep them coming x #coolmumclub

  61. March 28, 2016 / 9:29 pm

    Congratulations you have achieved loads in the first 6 months published on mumsnet is amazing. I have only being doing it for a year and haven’t got my head round SEO etc yet either. Thank you for hosting #bigpinklink sorry my comment has taken so long!!